| boy without having to tolerate any more puffs.
But then, the elite group who exhibit the supposed manhood-personality will see
him as "inferior" to them. This presumption braves him for more spells
of smoking to set him on the path of habitual smoking. As no sane person
is perfectly and fully sane; no person is also fully or entirely free from the
condition under discussion. However, the condition becomes a "complex"
and known as such only when It exceeds the normal level In a person.
The
feeling of being "small" is natural and right with a small child when
he finds him- self truly so in size in the family. The family is his only world
and the father the only hero he idolizes. So he likes to imitate the behaviour
and actions of his father (girl with those of the mother) as his model (hero)
to counter the feeling of being small and to impress himself and others in the
family that he is catching up with his model in behaviour and actions, if not
in size. A Tale of Slippers Let us consider a pertinent
example: The father with severe coughing is alarmed to find that his small child
has also started coughing. He is not only relieved but also amused when assured
by the doctor that the child was imitating him -and what a "natural"
actor for his age! Another example: The small child clumsily walks with
a pair of father's slippers on, and often loses balance. The family seeing his
interest and labour in the use of slippers buy him a pair of his size which he
uses for an hour or longer until the novelty of the new slippers (like a new toy)
wears off. Then the child ignores the pair of his comfortable size and resumes
the use of his father's -because it is not the slippers which are the point
of focus for him. The child therefore expects from the parents nothing
less than an affectionate acknowledgement and approval of his single-minded adoration
of the parents and imitation of their behaviour. He -equipped by his own trust
in himself -trusts them. With such a position of trust, however, it is
often the parents who can cause unknowingly the rise in the condition gradually
and steadily in the child above the normal level and place the first fateful layer
as the base for an inferiority complex. Once this occurs, the base then attracts
a pile up of more layers, one after the other, from out- side the home -in school,
sports ground, in meetings, debate -and the ugly edifice of the complex will have
been raised. Normally it is not possible for the parents or others to detect
the condition in a person nor attribute any particular behaviour of the moment
to the influence of the complex. What is worse is that the person who undergoes
the nagging belief that he is being seen small or unimportant also believes that
the condition is normal with others too, as victims, in the society.
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