Chapters

Teach the Child to Think

Treat the Child as an Adult

Allow the Child to Speak

 

"Touch & Tie" the Child

 

Let the Child be a Child

 

Spare the Child from Inferiority Complex (Three Parts)

 

Instruct the Child Once Only

 

The Child's First Participation in a Religious Congregation

 

Introduce the Child to the Clock

 

The Child with Culture of Reading is More Visionary

 

The Child and his Concept of Allah swt

  The Culture of Talking to Allah swt
  The Child Let Sulking Ceases Sulking
  Gaining Vision from Family History
  School Enrollment with a Spring-board
  Mother's True Love for Son is Sharing his with his Wife.
  Smart Shoes and the Child
  Childhood Trauma
  Slip of Expletives in Conversation-As a Habit
  Foster Charitable Nature in the Child
  Childhood Nickname can Stunt Personality
  Disciplinarian Parents on the Wrong Footing
  Favouring Boys is Wronging Girls among Children
  Groom the Child in the Art of Conversation
  The Child and his World of Fantasy
  The Child's "Book & Buddies"
  Allow the Child his Moments of Privacy
  Save the Child from Risk of School Antipathy
  Make the Child Understand Prejudice
  Handle the Child's Fragile Trust with Care
    

 

Child Psychology
Spare the Child from "Inferiority Complex" [Part 1 of 3]

boy without having to tolerate any more puffs. But then, the elite group who exhibit the supposed manhood-personality will see him as "inferior" to them. This presumption braves him for more spells of smoking to set him on the path of habitual smoking.


As no sane person is perfectly and fully sane; no person is also fully or entirely free from the condition under discussion. However, the condition becomes a "complex" and known as such only when It exceeds the normal level In a person.

    The feeling of being "small" is natural and right with a small child when he finds him- self truly so in size in the family. The family is his only world and the father the only hero he idolizes. So he likes to imitate the behaviour and actions of his father (girl with those of the mother) as his model (hero) to counter the feeling of being small and to impress himself and others in the family that he is catching up with his model in behaviour and actions, if not in size.


    A Tale of Slippers
    Let us consider a pertinent example: The father with severe coughing is alarmed to find that his small child has also started coughing. He is not only relieved but also amused when assured by the doctor that the child was imitating him -and what a "natural" actor for his age!

    Another example: The small child clumsily walks with a pair of father's slippers on, and often loses balance. The family seeing his interest and labour in the use of slippers buy him a pair of his size which he uses for an hour or longer until the novelty of the new slippers (like a new toy) wears off. Then the child ignores the pair of his comfortable size and resumes the use of his father's -because it is not the slippers
    which are the point of focus for him.

    The child therefore expects from the parents nothing less than an affectionate acknowledgement and approval of his single-minded adoration of the parents and imitation of their behaviour. He -equipped by his own trust in himself -trusts them.

    With such a position of trust, however, it is often the parents who can cause unknowingly the rise in the condition gradually and steadily in the child above the normal level and place the first fateful layer as the base for an inferiority complex. Once this occurs, the base then attracts a pile up of more layers, one after the other, from out- side the home -in school, sports ground, in meetings, debate -and the ugly edifice of the complex will have been raised.

    Normally it is not possible for the parents or others to detect the condition in a person nor attribute any particular behaviour of the moment to the influence of the complex. What is worse is that the person who undergoes the nagging belief that he is being seen small or unimportant also believes that the condition is normal with others too, as victims, in the society.


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