Chapters

Teach the Child to Think

Treat the Child as an Adult

Allow the Child to Speak

 

"Touch & Tie" the Child

 

Let the Child be a Child

 

Spare the Child from Inferiority Complex (Three Parts)

 

Instruct the Child Once Only

 

The Child's First Participation in a Religious Congregation

 

Introduce the Child to the Clock

 

The Child with Culture of Reading is More Visionary

 

The Child and his Concept of Allah swt

  The Culture of Talking to Allah swt
  The Child Let Sulking Ceases Sulking
  Gaining Vision from Family History
  School Enrollment with a Spring-board
  Mother's True Love for Son is Sharing his with his Wife.
  Smart Shoes and the Child
  Childhood Trauma
  Slip of Expletives in Conversation-As a Habit
  Foster Charitable Nature in the Child
  Childhood Nickname can Stunt Personality
  Disciplinarian Parents on the Wrong Footing
  Favouring Boys is Wronging Girls among Children
  Groom the Child in the Art of Conversation
  The Child and his World of Fantasy
  The Child's "Book & Buddies"
  Allow the Child his Moments of Privacy
  Save the Child from Risk of School Antipathy
  Make the Child Understand Prejudice
  Handle the Child's Fragile Trust with Care
    

 

Child Psychology

Gaining Vision From Family History - 14

has the right to be informed of such history of the family by the parents so that he later in life as a responsible adult is able to draw lessons from it and formulate his vision aright.

There may have occurred partnership disputes, business split, divorce cases, inheritance disputes, losses from business speculation and such other situations in the past in the family through perhaps negative emotions or miscalculated reasoning or misplaced trust with some disastrous consequences. Family history, if known, can help the succeeding generations avoid a repetition of the occurrences or exercise caution to avert such potential situations.

But before a child is old enough for information about the family-history, he has yet a prior right, equally important, -a right to that best and pertinent piece of education which originates only in his home and can avail to him in his young age only by the parents. That piece is about the reality of this transient life, the life of a constant struggle, exacting mental, physical and emotional toll, until there comes the inevitable exit in the form of death. He may not know that the struggle begins right from birth. He too cried as he struggled for first few initial breath, which is normal for all babies when they are born.

Importance In Timing.
The importance lies in timing the imparting of that piece of education for good effect. The time is when the child is getting inquisitive about the reasons for the quarrels and disputes which he hears about or witnesses as each occurs among the adults. The reasons are mostly connected with the struggle as part of this mortal life attendant with human weaknesses. He cannot. be explained reasons without allowing him the perception of the constant struggle in the life of every mortal, whatever his station of life, and which is attached to every family. To preserve health is also an ongoing struggle until there is a succumb to natural death.

The child has to be impressed that there is always a twist and turn in the struggle; and ups and downs in the history of every family and that the family in which he is born is no exception. Examples of the struggle are given to the child in the form of piece-meals narration of the family-history as and when appropriate occasions arise as he keeps growing up.

Then the child, on his .part as an adult later would, for the information of his children, add the narration of his own life-history of strife and successes as a continuous process of passing on the family history to the succeeding generations.

The grasping power of a grown-up child with regard to the family history and the les- sons intended for him in the narration should not be under-estimated.

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