Chapters

Teach the Child to Think

Treat the Child as an Adult

Allow the Child to Speak

 

"Touch & Tie" the Child

 

Let the Child be a Child

 

Spare the Child from Inferiority Complex (Three Parts)

 

Instruct the Child Once Only

 

The Child's First Participation in a Religious Congregation

 

Introduce the Child to the Clock

 

The Child with Culture of Reading is More Visionary

 

The Child and his Concept of Allah swt

  The Culture of Talking to Allah swt
  The Child Let Sulking Ceases Sulking
  Gaining Vision from Family History
  School Enrollment with a Spring-board
  Mother's True Love for Son is Sharing his with his Wife.
  Smart Shoes and the Child
  Childhood Trauma
  Slip of Expletives in Conversation-As a Habit
  Foster Charitable Nature in the Child
  Childhood Nickname can Stunt Personality
  Disciplinarian Parents on the Wrong Footing
  Favouring Boys is Wronging Girls among Children
  Groom the Child in the Art of Conversation
  The Child and his World of Fantasy
  The Child's "Book & Buddies"
  Allow the Child his Moments of Privacy
  Save the Child from Risk of School Antipathy
  Make the Child Understand Prejudice
  Handle the Child's Fragile Trust with Care
    

 

Child Psychology

Allow the Child His Moments of Privacy - 27

The son got married. The lingering display of the henna-dyed decorative patterns on
the hands of his wife continued to proclaim her as the new bride in the family. The couple were relishing the moments of the conjugal ecstasy (excessive matrimonial joy). otherwise known as the period of "honeymoon". They were the moments to be cherished in the memory and reminisced on the occasion of each anniversary with gratitude to Allah.

However. the honeymoon at home was not perfect in its setting nor the period there- after. The couple would want to steal a few short moments of being together holding hands as and when at leisure and alone in the privacy of their room during the day time which is normal for a newly-wed couple. They couldn't.

The mother continued with the old habit. since the childhood of the son. of appearing suddenly in his room. To her nothing changed nor did she want anything changed. The son and the room both remained the same -within her domain -and her right to it remained the same. Locking the door meant banning her right. She would be the prosecutor. the jury and the judge in a verdict against the bride as the scapegoat.

There was yet another ramification. For the parents to barge in was to cause the son to reveal to his wife his annoyance to this habit of the parents. and consequently he was offering a license to the wife to begin to develop a dislike for them.

It will be no surprise if the son as a child had and still has the habit of curling himself in the bed while in the state of sleep. This of course may not be as much in that fetal (unborn baby in the womb) posture as he was used to when he was a child.

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