Chapters

Teach the Child to Think

Treat the Child as an Adult

Allow the Child to Speak

 

"Touch & Tie" the Child

 

Let the Child be a Child

 

Spare the Child from Inferiority Complex (Three Parts)

 

Instruct the Child Once Only

 

The Child's First Participation in a Religious Congregation

 

Introduce the Child to the Clock

 

The Child with Culture of Reading is More Visionary

 

The Child and his Concept of Allah swt

  The Culture of Talking to Allah swt
  The Child Let Sulking Ceases Sulking
  Gaining Vision from Family History
  School Enrollment with a Spring-board
  Mother's True Love for Son is Sharing his with his Wife.
  Smart Shoes and the Child
  Childhood Trauma
  Slip of Expletives in Conversation-As a Habit
  Foster Charitable Nature in the Child
  Childhood Nickname can Stunt Personality
  Disciplinarian Parents on the Wrong Footing
  Favouring Boys is Wronging Girls among Children
  Groom the Child in the Art of Conversation
  The Child and his World of Fantasy
  The Child's "Book & Buddies"
  Allow the Child his Moments of Privacy
  Save the Child from Risk of School Antipathy
  Make the Child Understand Prejudice
  Handle the Child's Fragile Trust with Care
    

 

Child Psychology

Make the CHild Understand Prejudice - 29

The disease is infectious where ego and self-aggrandizement from stark ignorance abound.

A stereotype will twist, distort, misinterpret or even ignore the hard facts or glaring truth simply because they conflict with his "cherished opinions" which never had any valid basis in the first place. At the slightest opportunity, he is ready to make a quantum leap into a whimsical conclusion to comfort him in his prejudiced views. It is a disease of attitude (mind) which is often infected to the children by their parents, who themselves were also made victims during their childhood. Once infected a remedy or remission is difficult where ignorance is perpetuated as a heavenly inspiration.

In a society of Muslims the presence of stereotypes should be uncommon. The stereotypes cannot hold and portray compassion for all mankind in common, while Islam, in a nutshell, is "Serving the Creator and showing compassion for His creatures"(Hadith). Islam esteems the whole mankind as one people with no distinction with regard to race, tribe or colour. It has however set one distinction, a spiritual one, transcending all others and that is: those who are dutiful to Allah are the ones who are honourable in the sight of Allah. (Verse 49: 13).

Stereotypes are prone to stooping further for an added comfort of their weakness. They will be seen peddling supposedly "a righteous hate", again with no valid basis for it. Hate is even worse than prejudice. A child let toying with a prejudice to grow into hate is like letting him have a pet who grows into a monster, who later in life can- not be controlled, caged or made to disappear.

And There Was This Child...
There was this small child with her maid seated in a public garden. She was deriving fun by engaging her maid in a game of teasing her sense of concern for the child. She would wander off away from her to prompt the maid to plead to her to come back. When the maid makes a move to stand up to go after her she would sprint back and cling to her with her small arms around the maid's neck, and cheeks pressed hard against each other's to assure the maid that she is back safe. At times, the child would fondle the maid's ears or play with the maid's hair with her small hands in instinctive human attachment. It never dawns upon the child that they both are "different" in race and colour from one another.

Such a behaviour of a child is always a manifestation of the inherent human nature free of contrasting behavioural traits which are acquired later. The holy Qur'an is eloquent regarding this basic human nature of commonalty by saying that all human- beings are one single people (verse 5:48), with a common dignity to all mankind (verse 17:70). Any prejudice with regard to the fact that people though one, are not one single "Ummah" (nation), is to question the Creator's wisdom (11: 118).

Discourse and discussion of the subject mentioned in the verses with children at

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